Let’s be honest. Kids make some of the most simple daily errands seem like a Herculean task that might actually cause a nervous breakdown. So if leaving the house to get a loaf of bread seems as daunting as a marathon, read this and laugh because you are NOT aloneRead More
Oh my god, she's back again. Excuse my 90's reference. As a nearly 33 year old, I am wholeheartedly embracing my old-ness. Plus, that song still kicks ass 20 years later. I started blogging 10 years ago because it was fun. Then stopped because it was un-fun. Then started again. Then stopped, ah-gain. I've now done this a handful of times, wrestled with if it mattered and who cared... Then came to the conclusion, that I missed the creative outlet and will continue to blog when it's fun. Moreover I've decided to embrace the roots of my blog and talk clothes. Fashion. My original true love.
The idea of what dressing up means has changed for me. Having kids has something to do with that, but my time in SoCal has schooled me the art of casual dress. This look is fun, right!? What I love about my Storq dress is that while I look put together and dare I say "dressed up" the truth is, I'm in a stylish nightgown or at least that's what it feels like and I can throw it in the wash. That my friends is the goal. Comfort. Ease. Also, if you've been debating a shaggy coat, I say go for it. You will not be sorry.
So I know when I see baggy tee you think sloppy and unkempt, but no no, there is a fine art to wearing a t-shirt and not looking like a slob. It's an art that I have mastered and now that I am super uncomfortable with my mid-section I have learned to use this look to my advantage. Like always, I rock my favorite Felicity slimming nursing tank because I will take all the "slimming" action I can get and bonus, because these tees are so loose they can easily lift up for you to nurse! MAGIC!!! Okay, the secret to wearing baggy t-shirts is not rocket science... Are you ready!? The secret is always pairing it with a slim bottom. Skinny jeans, leggings, a fitted pair of boot cut like these, or slim yoga pants. Boom. That's it. Microphone dropped. I also lean towards shirts that are on the longer side, nothing too boxy. When you are feeling frumpy "short" and "stubby" aren't words that we want to evoke with our wardrobe. We want to take ever opportunity to elongate ourselves, especially when we aren't feeling so hot about our tummies. Think long and loose, it should hit right bellow the widest part of your hips. Also, this length can help cover up another post-baby phenomenon, 'dem hips yo!! I've always had a big booty, but LAWD have mercyyyy. If you are wearing leggings it is of the utmost importance that you cover 98% of your ass with your tee. We can see the underside of the cheeks, but anymore than that and you risk giving away the whole shebang and let's keep something to the imagination. Oh, and for the love of God don't wear nude, taupe, or any flesh tone leggings... ya look like ya ain't wearin' pants. Okay, so stayed tuned for more dressing your post baby body, next week talk about the dreaded muffin top and getting back into your skinny jeans... or not...
Wanna shop some tees, here are a few of my current favorites!!
So over the past few months my brain has been a pile of baby mush. While I still retain the most useless celebrity and movie knowledge, I forget the most basic information, I fumble for the easiest words, and I often feel like a an extra from The Walking Dead. But as I am getting used to this whole being a provider of life and sustenance, the reality of what a major undertaking that is has set in... I mean you know, but you don't KNOW... People try to prepare you, "get ready" "life will never be the same" blah, blah, blah, but here's the thing, not many folks really verbalize the struggles that can go along with being a new
parent mommy. After I had Rocco, I felt so out of control and, bloody hell, I love to be in control. You are so worried about everything. Is he eating enough? Is he pooping enough? Am I pooping enough?! Is he crying too much?! Am I crying too much!?! All these things that no one really mentions and the more I talk to mommies the more I see that this is all totally normal. Even the most put together mommy loses her shit and if she says that she doesn't then she sits on a throne of lies.
IT'S FREAKING HARD. Those first few months are especially draining on your body and on your soul!!! You want so much to make this lil nugget happy so when you can't you literally lose your marbles. You bawl, "what the hell do you want!?" and then you are filled with such guilt you take some time to cry in the closet. I felt such shame, when I would finally email The Captain I would confess that I felt like the worst mommy because I yelled at my poor baby and then cried locked in the bathroom... Well, as it turns out I wasn't alone. I would say the majority of mommys that I opened up to say they have had similar experiences. Don't you see!? We are all in the same boat, NONE of us know what we are doing!! My dearest friend, Shelly, reminded me one day that having a child is not supposed to be a one person job, the whole saying "it takes a village." She was so right, but it extends beyond your immediate family and friends... instead of ripping each other apart because "you can't believe she feeds her kids fast food" or "that she co-slept with her baby until he was a toddler" we should be helping lift each other up! Dude, it doesn't matter, we are all trying to survive and figure out what works best for our tiny humans because, shocker, all babies are different!!! No one, I repeat, NO ONE knows the perfect recipe for a happy baby that never cries and instantly sleeps through the night every single night ever!!! Can I get an AMEN!? We all love our babies so much, but let's nod our heads in agreement that there will be somedays where a shower and a poop alone are literally major triumphs! We are all in this together boos! [Insert fist pump here]
photos via Kelsey Erin Photography
Note: If you feel like you are experiencing more than just exhaustion and raging hormones please reach out to someone. Postpartum depression is a very real thing and you have to know you aren't alone! My brilliant friend Aggie wrote a beautiful and raw piece about her experience with ppd, I highly encourage you to check it out.
If you are having or have had a rough time and would just like to chat please to shoot me an message!