The bounce back conundrum. 

So if you've had a kid chances are you've found pages like 4th Trimester Body Project or Birth Without Fear, etc. these amazing groups celebrate moms in all of their forms, shapes, and sizes. I love it. Every woman, especially those who have made, housed, and birthed a baby, should never hate their body. It's beyond miraculous what the female body can do, the power we are capable of... It blows my mind. Staring at my 7 month old and 2.5 year old it's like "HOLY HOT DAMN!! I CREATED THEM!!!" Like shit!!!! So yes, I'm amazed and in love with what my body has done... Butttt I still desire to get my body to a place where I'm wholly confident, healthy, and strong. Don't hate me, but I have kids and still want to look good in a bathing suit. *gasp* So like anything in this day and age you are damned if you do, damned if you don't. On one side you get the, "stop shaming moms who don't bounce back after baby" and then there's the "stop shaming moms who desire to spend time on themselves and exercise" Why is it always like this?! All it takes is 10 seconds on a comment thread of any mommy related story for the claws to come out. We are always offended. Everything is offensive. Dear sweet baby Jesus!! I'm offended, you're offended, I'm offended... Geez!! Why?! Did agree-to-disagree just fly out the window?  Since when did your opinion mean so much more than your neighbor's?! And why in the hell do we have to tell everyone?! Hell, I'm a blogger, I love giving my 2 cents about all things and I have plenty of thoughts about child raising ideals and practices... Sure, I might quietly judge or disagree with another mom for a certain behavior, but guess what?! I keep my freakin mouth closed because that mom is just doing her best! The poor mom who lost her child to an alligator attack hopefully never looked at the comment thread on a story about their situation because the terrible awful things that were said would leave even the toughest skin bruised. She was doing her best. Don't get me started on the Gorilla kid...

I've gotten off topic...

IMG_7084When I stare in the mirror, I'm gonna be honest, I'm like Meh. I don't hate my body, but I am genuinely excited about getting back into my old clothes and feeling happy with my nekkid body. I hesitate to say "get my body back" I don't want that body, I want my -amazing, birthed 2 babies naturally with no drugs, fed two babies from my boobs- body, I just want strength and stamina to chase my kiddos endlessly. I want to be able to pick up my kids until they're teenagers. Slight exaggeration? Possibly.

It doesn't have to be one or the other. We can love our bodies and all they've done and desire to spend time on ourselves excercising and getting in shape. If you're anything like me, the time spent exercising is just as much a mental cleansing as it is a physical challenge. It gets my brain right. Even if it's just a walk or a 10 minute arm series. You'd be amazed what that can do for your soul.

Processed with VSCO with a6 presetOn top of exercise and good old fashioned clean eating, after F bomb I decided to wear my Belly Bandit compression gear for REALS this go around. I had it for after Roc, but was not consistent. Let me tell you consistency is key!!! I wore my Original Belly Bandit, all-day everyday for the first month. After that I tried to wear it for at least 4 hours for the following few months until it [hooray] became too big! I switched to the Mother Tucker corset after that and again wore that for a few hours a day . On top of these tummy products, I decided to try the Hip Bandit because with Rocco it was a solid year before my hips were back down to size. Guys!!!! At 5 months my hip measurement was a half an inch away from pre-baby... NUMBER ONE!!! So yea, if you're wondering if this stuff works. I'd have to say a resounding yessss ma'am. I also rock their Mother Tucker leggings, like, all the time. Just look at my past two fashion posts. I feel so good when I wear them and at the end of the day it doesn't matter what a comment thread says or Instagram or People magazine says, feelin good is all that matters!!

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The Long and Short of it

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First off, I had pink hair!!!! It's been 15 years in the making, but I finally put some pink in my locks! Such a rebel. Yes, you can barely tell in these photos and that was sorta the point and it's pretty much completely gone now. Next time I will go brighter, but I wanted a kiss of pastel pink to make me feel like the cool mom I am… cause I am soooo not a regular mom…

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So here's my final maternity fashion post! I can't believe I'm no longer pregnant… It's amazing how that happens… I have never been much for maxi skirts on me before pregnancy. Honestly, even as a self proclaimed stylist I find them very difficult to dress. I love layers and the whole rocker thing, so I find it hard to layer on a maxi without looking like a full on hobo. Well with as hot as it's been, pants and shorts are just a hell no and if you don't want to purchase maternity clothes you are left with maxi skirts and maxi dresses. This skirt was lovingly passed down from my sister, I stretch it out pretty badly every time I wear it, but luckily it always shrinks back. If you've never visited my sister's store's site you totally should, you can find it here. Super cute, super affordable. I have also had a ton of luck with Nordstrom Racks maxi skirt selection and for the price you can't beat it. I don't plan on wearing these much post baby, so I really didn't want to spend a fortune. I've tried to keep my maxi's fun and patterned and pair them with a ton of boho accessories. I threw on whatever rings still fit my sausage fingers and as many dainty gold necklaces as my sweaty body can handle [little did I know that wasn't going to go away after Rocco's birth]. My makeup these days, as you can see, is barely there. If I can cover redness and the bags under my eyes than I am totes winning at life! Who's ready for Fall/Winter!? #ThisGirl

DSC_0914-(ZF-8413-57929-1-017)My favorite mini. This chick knows how to pose!

I'm still pregnant…

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Yes, the post title is meant to be sung to the tune of I'm so Fancy… So I've seen a few bloggers do BumpDates every month which are super cute and so much fun to read. My favorite has been my hilarious friend Kristen. Her little boy Everett is just precious!!! Well, I thought that I should finish this pregnancy off with a little BumpDate round up of myself. I mean, I love talking about myself sooooo it's surprising I haven't been doing it all along!

I want to thank Tatum Kathleen Photography for my awesome maternity shots!! Also, a huge thanks  to Kelsey Erin Photography for keeping Blissful Happenings looking good and taking our brilliant food comparison pics!!! I love my boos!!

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[How many weeks?] 39 weeks on Thursday

[Gender?] Boy

[Name?] Rocco

[Weight Gain?] I hate you! How rude!?

[What foods have you been craving?] All. The. Food. I have had an enormous appetite pretty much since the second trimester. Who are we kidding!? I have always had an enormous appetite, but it's been out of control. I started off craving biscuits and gravy and frozen Van's waffles. I crave avocado rolls and veggie tempura from Lil' Tokyo pretty much every single day. They know me pretty well there…

[How has your sleep been?] Meh. It's been okay. I would say I get up to pee 3-6 times a night which isn't awesome, but luckily I'm able to fall back asleep. Nature's way of preparing me for Rocco's many feedings!?

[How are your emotions?] Ummmm they are definitely heightened. I cry a lot, it doesn't take much at all.  I am incredibly needy these days and I miss The Captain. I spend a lot of time hugging my dogs and watching Gossip Girl.

[Have you been nesting?] Definitely. I just want everything cleaned and disinfected… This has been a terribly inconvenient time for my house to spring a leak and have a massive hole cut into my ceiling. Sigh. I can't wait for it to be finished so I can mop and dust.

[What's on my nightstand?] I've been reading HypnoBirthing, HappyBaby, Dad is Fat, and Bringing Up Bébé. I can't quite focus enough to read much, but I've been trying.

[What am I super over!?] This heat. I can't take it. It's been absolutely miserable. This ridiculously un-San Diegan 95-100 degree weather is killing me. Crotch sweat is an awful thing…

[Any guesses when you will go into labor?] I wish I could say tomorrow, but I have a feeling I'm going to be pretty close to my due date. I think October 4 is the day… but what do I know!?!

[What I'm looking forward to?] I absolutely cannot wait to meet this nugget!! I am so excited for labor, which I know sounds crazy, but I can't wait to feel a contraction and know that sometime soon I'm gonna meet my son!! I can't wait to see if he's going to look like The Captain!! I just imagine his mini-me and that makes me happier than I can tell you!!!

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